Know Where Motivation Comes From

Know Where Motivation Comes From

Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.

—Dwight D. Eisenhower

There was a manager who came early to a seminar we were presenting on leadership. He was attired in an olive green polo shirt and white pleated slacks, ready for a day of golf.

He walked to the front of the room and said, “Look, your session is not mandatory, so I’m not planning on attending.”

“That’s fine, but I wonder why you came early to this session to tell us that. There must be something that you’d like to know.”

“Well, yes, there is,” the manager confessed. “All I want to know is how to get my people on the sales team to improve. How do I manage them?”

“Is that all you want to know?”

“Yes, that’s it,” declared the manager.

“Well, we can save you a lot of time and make sure

that you get to your golf game on time.”

The manager leaned forward, waiting for the words of

wisdom that he could extract about how to manage his people.

And we told him: “You can’t.” “What?”

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“You can’t manage anyone. So there, you can go and have a great game.”

“What are you saying?” asked the manager. “I thought you give whole seminars on motivating others. What do you mean, I can’t?”

“We do give whole seminars on this topic. But one of the first things we teach managers is that they can’t really directly control their people. Motivation always comes from within your employee, not from you.”

“So what is it you do teach?”

“We teach you how to get people to motivate them- selves. That is the key. And you do that by managing agree- ments, not people. And that is what we are going to discuss this morning.”

The manager put his car keys in his pocket and sat down in the first seat closest to the front of the room for the rest of the seminar. He has spent his whole life trying to manage the behavior and emotions of other people, at home as well as at work. Therefore, his life was full of stress and disappointment. We were going to show him that motivation comes from the inside, not the outside. 

Taken From 100 Ways to Motivate Others by Steve Chandler